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April 9, 2017  TAGS:  MUSIC  RESOURCES  PLANNING

Memories to Last a Lifetime: Live Music For Your Wedding

Music Inspiration for your wedding - Memories to last a lifetime - Why you should consider live musicians at your wedding | Vermont Bride Magazine
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Flash forward in time. It’s your 10th, 25th, or maybe 50th anniversary and you’re looking back on your wedding day. You chuckle together about the flower girl who unexpectedly stopped half way down the aisle, mesmerized by all the people, and the sweet if slightly embarrassing words shared about you by your minister or rabbi or officiant. You look at the lilacs growing outside the window of your home, smell the scent, and revel in the same soft purple grace you enjoyed at your wedding. When you hum your special song, or play the recording on the stereo, and dance through the halls of your home, your breath catches as you remember the moment of your walk down the aisle, the moment the musicians played your special song in the middle of the ceremony, or your first dance together as a married couple, and the music that filled the room on that day.

Music can be one of the most significant factors which will establish the ambiance, and color the memories, of your wedding day. With so many options available to today’s couples, where do you start in making music choices that will resonate for both of you – and leave memories that will still catch your breath on your 50th anniversary?

First, talk with your partner about what you like in music. Do you dream of a quartet serenading you down the aisle with your favorite classical music standards, or would you prefer a soloist or a duo with a Celtic lilt? Or perhaps you want to steer clear of traditional choices and pick some favorite pop or Broadway tunes. Do you have a special song already that you’d like to include in the ceremony? Or would you like to choose a special tune together that will become “your song?” What sort of musician would be best suited to play that tune? Do you have an ensemble in mind, or will you be finding a soloist or group of musicians that will play the repertoire you have in mind? Do you have any special memories of playing or hearing music in the past in a way that really influenced you? And what can you afford for music? The greater the number of musicians, the greater the price – so you’ll need to keep that in mind when choosing between a soloist, a duo, a quartet, or a full band. These are all important questions to explore together before you get too far in the planning!

You may have no idea what you’d like, and that’s ok too! Here are some thoughts on the next steps.

First, consider the value of live music. The feeling, the vibrancy, the life, the color of the mood of live music played by live musicians is something that will resonate in your experience of the day, in the experience of your guests, and in your memories. Ever been at a wedding where the bride is ready to walk down the aisle and a relative is having difficulty finding the right spot on the CD, or the speaker is blasting shrieks of feedback, the plug gets disconnected, or someone can’t find the off button after the bride reaches the front? With live music, there will be real and experienced people who have tailored the thoughts of you and your interests into their preparation, and who enjoy reveling in your dreams for the day and weave them into your repertoire choices, while shaping the music to fit each portion of your wedding.

The next step: browse some web sites. You can either do this together or have one of you do the initial research and report back. For starters, click here for an overview of some of the top musicians in the state.  Talk about what each of you likes and doesn’t like about a particular option, laugh a little at the differences of perspective, and revel in the similarities. Check with musicians about availability, pricing, and any other questions you may have. The joy that you find in making the choices, and in the memories created, may end up being a part of the glue that holds your marriage together and keeps a lift in your step and a glimmer in your eye for many years to come.

Lisa Carlson is a freelance flutist, performing for weddings and other occasions throughout Vermont and beyond, with musical offerings ranging from a quartet of flute with violin, viola and cello, to solo flute, to duos and trios of flute with harp, violin, piano, cello, oboe, and more. She also teaches flute in Montpelier, Vermont Lebanon, New Hampshire, and online to students worldwide.